Now you’ve groomed yourself to catch the attention of that guy, and you are wondering how you can keep him interested in you for real. Here are some quick tips and hints on keeping a man interested. Note, this 12 Ways to Keep Him Interested In You may be helpful, but if you are different, maybe other things could help.
KEEP HIM INTRIGUED.
Don’t be completely an open book. Don’t give out every bit of information about yourself in one day. Make sure there is ample room for surprise. Reveal things about yourself in bits. Give the relationship time to simmer, and space out some of your revelations about yourself
Maintain a little bit of mystery. Don\’t tell him every little thing you\’re doing, every place you\’ve been to, and every person you\’ve seen. Even if you didn\’t want to be a little mysterious, sharing every little detail about your past and your whereabouts is likely to be draining to a man.
Surprise him from time to time, men like women love surprises. Take him out to a cool place without an announcement. Keep him guessing wildly sometimes, men are adventurous he sure will love it.
SHOW HIM YOU ARE INTERESTED IN HIM.
Instead of dwelling on you and your past relationships, show him you are genuinely interested in him by asking him questions about himself. Show him you are listening when he talks about his past and relationships. It will make him feel he’s connecting and bonding with you.
FIND OUT HIS LIKES
Favorite colors, food, sports, TV shows etc. and let him know you appreciate these stuffs because of him.
Our communities are becoming more diversified, if he is of a different culture from yourself try and read up one or two things about his culture he will sure love it.
GIVE HIM HIS SPACE.
Don’t crowd a guy. Guys naturally need a little more space than women do. As much as this guy likes you, it will pain him to realize he has lost touch with friends and stuffs he loved doing because you are always hanging around him. Make sure he feels like he has a life outside you.
And if you\’re worried about trust, don\’t be. Trust him. If he gives you a reason not to trust him, then you can start questioning his motives. The truth is that if you trust him and he likes you, he won\’t want to give you a reason to revoke that trust. If you don\’t trust him when you should, he\’ll want to punish you for not trusting him.
BOOST HIS EGO.
Make him feel good about himself, if a man feels good about himself because of a person, he sure will like to hang around that person. Most likely he’ll also make you feel good about yourself.
REINFORCE THE WAY HE WANTS TO BE VIEWED.
Does he consider himself an athlete? Tell him how muscular, coordinated, or skilled he is. Does he consider himself an intellectual? Tell him how smart and profound he is. Does he consider himself a comedian? Laugh at his jokes and set him up to be funny.
Let him be chivalrous. Pay attention to all the \”gentlemanly\” things he does for you and acknowledge them. When he opens the door, pays for your meal, or lets you in first, make him feel special!
Know that he\’ll most likely act different around his guy friends. Never tolerate outright disrespect, but if he acts a little strange, it\’s because he\’s trying to impress his boys. If it doesn\’t offend you, let him.
DON’T FORCE HIM TO DISPLAY AFFECTION PUBLICLY.
A lot of men don’t usually want to show their softer sides in public. Therefore if he feels reluctant or awkward about holding your hands or kissing you in public, don’t be upset or angry. If he does anyway, that\’s a bonus, and he\’s probably a very decent Guy., but if not don’t make it a big deal.
If you need a man who is comfortable showing his love to you in public, tell him gently. Let him know it\’s a priority to you, but that you understand it might not be a top priority for him. If he really likes or loves you, he\’ll be open to compromise.
BE CONFIDENT OF YOUR SELF.
Don’t start comparing yourself to other women just be the best of yourself. Comparing yourself to other women might portray insecurity and your guy wants to a boyfriend and not your psychologist.
DRESS WELL
Dress to show that you\’re comfortable and confident with your body but make sure you don\’t go over the top. A decent guy will appreciate you in decent and not too reveling cloths
DON’T GET SEXUALLY INVOLVED UNTIL YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS CLOSE AND COMFORTABLE.
Jumping into bed with this new great guy will more often than not drain the excitement from the relationship. Guys (and girls, for that matter) like challenges. As funny as it may seem, he likes the chase almost as much as anything else. Give him a good chase (without being too hard-to-get), and he\’ll be around for the whole hunt
MAKE YOUR SEX LIFE INTERESTING
One of the very important 12 Ways to Keep Him Interested In You is to keep your sexual relationship interesting.
Initiate sex at least some of the time. Guys don\’t always want to be the one asking for it. It makes them feel greedy. Initiate some of the time and you\’ll keep him happy.
Ask him what his fantasies are. If you\’re comfortable with acting them out, give them a try. There\’s nothing sexier to a guy than a girl who cares about his deepest desires.
Help him feel adequate. Be open about what he can do to please you sexually. Give him encouragement when he does something good. Never tease or make jokes about length, performance, etc., as guys are especially sensitive about it.
GIVE HIM MASSAGES
After a long hard day at work and stress of after-work traffic, men love to be given a nice body, back, or foot massage. If you have the time and energy, throw in a pedicure and manicure. You may even get the same treatment in return, especially if you ask for it! A guy who won\’t give you a nice long massage after you\’ve given one to him doesn\’t deserve to have you dote on him.